yea *technically* she asked, but it brings to mind ye olde adage "do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy/married/partnered" aka she didn't really want your critique, mary berry!!! say thank you for the homemade birthday cake!
also "I even ate half of a slice--the chocolate part" is so telling. this man was POUTING.
These two both need to grow up. They’re behaving like children! If someone does something nice for you, even if it’s not quite what you want, you really don’t have to sulk. And for her part, it was his birthday so maybe cut him some slack. I think they probably deserve each other!
This cake is a metaphor for some aspect of their relationship, but even they don’t seem to know what it is. I bet the kids told her to put the vanilla in there to trigger him and now they have all that cake and no mom’s boyfriend to eat it.
I agree with the guy but I think it's maybe the timing that sucks...telling her while eating the cake is a bit much to me. Smile then tell her later when stakes aren't so high!
He is correct that if he orders a cake next year, he can get his money back if they don't do it the way he likes it...but then she should also return him to The Boyfriend Store and ask for a full refund of her time, energy, *and* cake supplies.
Although there may have been a way for him to show his gratitude and still be honest with her, I find myself in this same sitch ALL THE DAMN TIME! People asking for your feedback don't usually actually WANT honest feedback. They want gratitude and nothing else. The idea that you should just be grateful and nothing more is stupidly naive and doesn't help advance relationships. For example, I have about a thousand essential oils and make rollers for friends and family all the time. I also have a few hundred dollars worth of soap making supplies and a lifetime supply of scented soaps in my craft room. My adult daughter recently visited Ashville and brought back gifts for everyone in the family. I'll give you 2 guesses what she brought me. Of course I was outwardly grateful. But inside I was wondering wtf she was thinking. She knows I have all of these supplies and soaps in my house! She gets them as gifts for literally EVERY occasion. I'm not asking for diamond encrusted gifts from people, just pay attention and be minimally thoughtful in your gift giving! #endrant
yea *technically* she asked, but it brings to mind ye olde adage "do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy/married/partnered" aka she didn't really want your critique, mary berry!!! say thank you for the homemade birthday cake!
also "I even ate half of a slice--the chocolate part" is so telling. this man was POUTING.
It’s his birthday he can pout if he wants to CRY if he wants to!
She has someone she wants to bake a cake for, he has someone who wants to do that for him… both just to step back and realise how awesome THAT is!
This is very middle child, peacemaker energy lol. I love that
The poll results shook me! I’m disgusted by YOUR audience, Meech!
This is why Democracy doesn't work!!! We need a CHEERocracy!
These two both need to grow up. They’re behaving like children! If someone does something nice for you, even if it’s not quite what you want, you really don’t have to sulk. And for her part, it was his birthday so maybe cut him some slack. I think they probably deserve each other!
This cake is a metaphor for some aspect of their relationship, but even they don’t seem to know what it is. I bet the kids told her to put the vanilla in there to trigger him and now they have all that cake and no mom’s boyfriend to eat it.
Those kids are truly the winners of The Big Birthday Chocolate Cake Catastrophe of 2023
She probably forgot, hoped he wouldn’t say anything, then she was embarrassed she forgot and made a big deal instead of apologizing.
I agree with the guy but I think it's maybe the timing that sucks...telling her while eating the cake is a bit much to me. Smile then tell her later when stakes aren't so high!
He is correct that if he orders a cake next year, he can get his money back if they don't do it the way he likes it...but then she should also return him to The Boyfriend Store and ask for a full refund of her time, energy, *and* cake supplies.
Although there may have been a way for him to show his gratitude and still be honest with her, I find myself in this same sitch ALL THE DAMN TIME! People asking for your feedback don't usually actually WANT honest feedback. They want gratitude and nothing else. The idea that you should just be grateful and nothing more is stupidly naive and doesn't help advance relationships. For example, I have about a thousand essential oils and make rollers for friends and family all the time. I also have a few hundred dollars worth of soap making supplies and a lifetime supply of scented soaps in my craft room. My adult daughter recently visited Ashville and brought back gifts for everyone in the family. I'll give you 2 guesses what she brought me. Of course I was outwardly grateful. But inside I was wondering wtf she was thinking. She knows I have all of these supplies and soaps in my house! She gets them as gifts for literally EVERY occasion. I'm not asking for diamond encrusted gifts from people, just pay attention and be minimally thoughtful in your gift giving! #endrant
To be fair I think chocolate cake is disgusting, so I would have just bought a carrot cake